Vulnerability is a Superpower
I risked looking inexpert
I wrote about how awkward I recently felt receiving compliments. But putting this out in print worried me that I would look less like an expert. In reality, this mindset is astonishingly powerful.
In a recent conversation, Marla told me she had changed her behavior, to be able to say what wasn't working for her a in relationship, before the relationship hit a breaking point from which there was no return. That was major growth for her. She's learned to bravely be vulnerable to have more of what she wants. I asked how long that had taken. She answered, "24 years." There are ways to speed up that process.
I believe vulnerability powerfully connects us to others. When we can take ourselves on, let our guard down, and let others can see our soft underbelly, they can feel us in a very real way. And they're invited to join us with their own vulnerability. We can meet in that safe place.
It's OK to have "stuff," or what feels like a stuck place, that you may push away, til it shows itself to you again and again until you can no longer ignore it... like receiving compliments can be for me.
I don't believe I'll ever stop having stuff - it'll simply change as I evolve in my life, as I up-level to newer stuff. The door behind the door keeps opening to reveal... another door.
A friend of mine used to say, "when one door closes, another door opens, but it's hell in the hallway." I'd laugh. It's funny. But it doesn't have to be hell. That depends on how you want to see it. It can be exciting.
I strive to look at myself with a clear eye, so I can have more of what I want in my life: connection, love, affection, adventure, fun, creation - the things in life worth having.
If you choose to work with a guide to help you grow faster than you can at a usual evolutionary crawl, seek this quality in your guide. You'll benefit by having your back held as you advance forward by someone who's further ahead of you, yet still relishing the freedom and curiosity beginner's mind provides.
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